Avoid toxic people: How to tell healthy relationships in your life
Relationships are an integral part of our lives, whether they are intimate or friendships, and need to be managed and maintained with care. A good relationship can bring us happiness and support, while an unhealthy relationship can bring us pain and distress.
How can we tell if we are in a healthy relationship?
1. You like the state of yourself when you are with him/her
A quality relationship makes a person more confident, stronger, and more attracted to themselves.
2. Don't go to great lengths to figure out each other's intention
In a good relationship, you can do your own. Everyone is honest and independent and fully understands each other.
3. You enjoy the "present" of the relationship, rather than expecting changes in the future
A good relationship allows you to enjoy the present moment and feel full happiness so that you can build up enough confidence in the future.
4. Every step of your development or change will be encouraged & praised, not denied & criticized
A good relationship will not always be characterized by negativity and nitpicking, but rather by seeing your growth and progress.
5. There will be conflict between you, but ultimately it will be constructive rather than destructive
The ideal relationship is not completely free of conflict and contradiction, but one that is strengthened by the ability to communicate benignly and solve problems.
On the other hand, a good relationship also lets there be conflict and anger. When you express anger or rage, you are actually letting the other person know in a less comfortable way what you want or don't want, and where your boundaries are. It is also a way of taking care of and releasing your own emotions.
6. You don't need to hide your needs in order to keep a harmonious relationship
A quality relationship is one in which you can express your needs normally, rather than secretly complaining or grieving.
7. Will be relieved from negative emotions with the help of the other person
A well and strong relationship involves sharing the trials and difficulties of life. When you are in the doldrums, the other person will pull you out of the emotional quagmire in various ways. You will also gain relief from his/her companionship, reminders, and guidance.
8. The compromises you make in a relationship won't damage your independence
Relationships require compromises, but that doesn't mean you have to put the other person before you or do everything to keep the relationship going. It requires understanding, caring, empathy, and interchanging thoughts and does not damage your independent personality. You discuss, coordinate, and support each other in making some common decisions together.
9. You can feel loved from the other person even if you are not perfect
We often put a lot of hard "prerequisites" on "being loved", but a good relationship will make you realize that you are the condition of love itself.
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